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WOW! I’m on a roll! I guess this blog thing is kind of fun! This one is neither advice, nor a remembrance thing. Just a little heads up to all of you. You guys should join the site! You will be able to post to the blog, add new pages and pictures, instant message and send messages through the site, and a whole lot more. Why the heck wouldn’t you want to? We already have tons of visitors, if you check the site counter at the bottom, and you can like us on facebook! Come on! We have a TON of visitors, but only a handful of members! You can change that! I will be setting up a site email soon, so wait and I’ll keep you posted. I probably won’t send out a weekly newsletter or anything like that. It will just be a place where you can contact me. In the meantime, feel free to sign the guestbook or leave comments. Thank you and good bye!

-PB

This one is going to be a little different. I don’t know how well it will come out because feelings are really hard to write about. Last year, on November 28, my friend, Lindsey Marie Eyles, passed away from Ewings Sarcoma. It is a rare type of bone cancer. She was 11. You may have seen the page on this site in her honor.

Honestly, I didn’t know her all that well. I would have liked to get to know her better, but I never got a chance too. I regret that more than anyone can ever know. She was a beautiful dancer, filled with spirit and determination. I loved watching her, and I really wish I could have known her better. Her wake was probably one of the saddest things I have ever seen in my life. It was sad, yet beautiful. All the pictures of her and her family and friends…it was sweet…bittersweet.

There was a little poem on a little card we received. I thought it summed everything up perfectly. It is called “He only takes the best”

God saw she was getting tired

And a cure was not to be

So he put his arms around her

And whispered “come with me”

With tearful eyes we watched her

Suffer and fade away

Although we loved her dearly

We could not make her stay

A golden heart stopped beating

Hardworking hands put to rest

God broke our hearts to prove to us

He only takes the best

It is so beautiful, so sweet, and so, so true. I also wrote a little thing, shortly after, well…you know. I call it “Life ain’t fair.”

There are times when you realize that life ain’t fair.

That sickness and dying are everywhere

Your best friend gets sick with a rare type of cancer

Now she can no longer be a ballet dancer

She fights through it all, she exerts all her strength

We all try to help her, we’ll go to any length

Its no use, she slowly fades away

Until that moment comes on that fateful day

Now my friend is gone – how can it be

It feels like something is missing from me

That bright light is gone, now my world is dark

Oh how I do miss my beautiful lark

When she was around, I felt I could lift off and fly

But now she is gone, and I don’t know why

The angel by night, the angel by day

She was the type who kept your fears at bay

Now she is truly up there with them in the sky

And she is the one who can lift off and fly

I wish that certain things in life weren’t true

If I could change anything, that’s what I’d do.

Why do things have to be the way that they are?

It’s all very close, though it seems very far.

It all comes down to this one little thing

It’s little, but big, it affects everything

There are times when you realize that life ain’t fair

That sickness and dying are everywhere

It doesn’t seem true, it’s hard and it’s wrong

But it’s close to you, as you’ll see before long

For there are times when you realize that life ain’t fare

And whether you think it’s close or far, you still should care

Life is hard, and life is cruel,

And life isn’t fair, as a general rule

There are bad things in life, as you can see,

But there are good things as well, as it should be

Life will go on, no matter how hard it may get,

And more good things will happen to you yet

Just remember that while life ain’t fair

Good things can be found just about everywhere

She will be and is missed.

Hey, hey, hey! It’s me, Pixie Bug, creator of this site. This is the first entry in my new blog. I was going to just let Saphire have her blog because she is such an amazing writer, but I realized that there was something I wanted to say. Actually, a couple of somethings. I’m not much of a writer, so I know this probably won’t come out very well, but I wanted to give some advice of my own. You can thank Saphire for giving me the idea. She is kind of my role model. I trust her completely. Actually, that is kind of what I wanted to talk about.

How many of you guys take your friends for granted? Maybe even take advantage of them? I know, your first instinct is to say ‘Not Me,’ but think about it. Are you the type to always confide in your friends? ALWAYS? Or to ALWAYS talk to them about your problems for advice? Well I am, and you know what? I almost lost some of my closest friends because of it. It’s ok to confide in your friends, but remember to give them a little space. You really don’t want them to get annoyed by you. Just take a moment and think about how your actions can come across. Are you too pushy? Do you constantly do something annoying? Are you always in their face? Do you act like you are the center of the universe? Do you listen to their problems or constantly talk about yours? How do they react to you? How much do you really know about them? Ask yourself these questions. Is there something you could be doing better? Maybe you should sit down one day and just LISTEN to your friend. Don’t talk about yourself all the time. Few things are worse than losing a truly close friend.

Friendship, especially true friendship, is extraordinarily important. I would rather have a few really close friends than a ton of kind of close friends. But if you don’t want to lose them, put their needs first, but don’t forget about yourself in the process. I know, its kind of a fine line between pushy or all about you and not being able to make a decision or have a personality. Give them their space, but don’t ignore them. Talk to them about BOTH your problems, but also some positive things too. Don’t lose sight of the big picture, and above all DON’T FORGET TO LISTEN TO WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY!!! Spend time with them, but don’t be clingy. Don’t take over the conversations. Think about how your actions can come across.

I know it sounds like a lot, but really, its not. Just be a good friend. Honestly, it can be summed up in three things:

- follow the golden rule

- follow the pillars of character

- BE NICE

That’s it! Now go out there and be a good friend!