|Posted by Pixie Bug on November 23, 2011 at 8:10 PM|
Hey, hey, hey! It’s me, Pixie Bug, creator of this site. This is the first entry in my new blog. I was going to just let Saphire have her blog because she is such an amazing writer, but I realized that there was something I wanted to say. Actually, a couple of somethings. I’m not much of a writer, so I know this probably won’t come out very well, but I wanted to give some advice of my own. You can thank Saphire for giving me the idea. She is kind of my role model. I trust her completely. Actually, that is kind of what I wanted to talk about.
How many of you guys take your friends for granted? Maybe even take advantage of them? I know, your first instinct is to say ‘Not Me,’ but think about it. Are you the type to always confide in your friends? ALWAYS? Or to ALWAYS talk to them about your problems for advice? Well I am, and you know what? I almost lost some of my closest friends because of it. It’s ok to confide in your friends, but remember to give them a little space. You really don’t want them to get annoyed by you. Just take a moment and think about how your actions can come across. Are you too pushy? Do you constantly do something annoying? Are you always in their face? Do you act like you are the center of the universe? Do you listen to their problems or constantly talk about yours? How do they react to you? How much do you really know about them? Ask yourself these questions. Is there something you could be doing better? Maybe you should sit down one day and just LISTEN to your friend. Don’t talk about yourself all the time. Few things are worse than losing a truly close friend.
Friendship, especially true friendship, is extraordinarily important. I would rather have a few really close friends than a ton of kind of close friends. But if you don’t want to lose them, put their needs first, but don’t forget about yourself in the process. I know, its kind of a fine line between pushy or all about you and not being able to make a decision or have a personality. Give them their space, but don’t ignore them. Talk to them about BOTH your problems, but also some positive things too. Don’t lose sight of the big picture, and above all DON’T FORGET TO LISTEN TO WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY!!! Spend time with them, but don’t be clingy. Don’t take over the conversations. Think about how your actions can come across.
I know it sounds like a lot, but really, its not. Just be a good friend. Honestly, it can be summed up in three things:
- follow the golden rule
- follow the pillars of character
- BE NICE
That’s it! Now go out there and be a good friend!
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